Our Blog - AMF Divorce

Divorce is an emotionally challenging journey that often begins with one of the most daunting tasks—communicating the decision to friends, family, and colleagues. The way this information is shared can significantly impact the journey ahead for everyone involved. It’s important to approach this sensitive conversation thoughtfully, considering the emotional readiness of those you're about to inform. Seeking support from professionals like a divorce coach, from the onset of the decision, can help navigate these tricky conversations. In this post, we discuss what to keep in mind as you prepare to share the news of your divorce with others. Timing Is Key First, consider when you’ll share the news of your divorce. To make this decision, determine the emotional readiness of the individuals involved. For example, parents might relate better due to their own experiences white children could have intense emotional reactions. Consider the stage of legal proceedings and any other ongoing events or commitments before initiating these conversations. For example, it might not be best to share the news with your teenage daughter the night before she has a big test. Rather, consider timing that allows your friends and family time to react and process in the ways they need. Mutual agreement with your ex-spouse on the approach and timing for informing others can also be beneficial in managing the situation cohesively. Share Sensitively Once you’ve considered the right timing, take steps to deliver the news honestly and concisely in a private setting, avoiding public spaces. Share limited information initially, without disclosing legal intricacies. This approach can help maintain focus on the key message. Consider your audience and tailor the information to suit the understanding and appropriateness for each group. If you can initiate discussions with mutual friends alongside your ex-spouse, you can alleviate the immediate pressure they may feel of choosing sides. Start with less challenging conversations, if possible, allowing you to practise in delivering a composed, sensitive, and factual message about the situation, before moving to more challenging audiences, such as your colleagues or children. Managing Reactions Expect diverse reactions from friends, family, children, and coworkers. Being prepared to receive and process these responses is crucial. While accepting support is important, setting boundaries on discussions, especially if certain details aren't ready to be disclosed, is a healthy approach. Make it a priority to protect your personal space and privacy during this emotionally charged time. Getting help from professionals can help you process reactions effectively. Consider speaking with a divorce coach, psychologist, or other professionals in the early days of your divorce. Moving Forward Communicating your divorce decision is a significant milestone in the journey toward healing and moving forward. Approach it thoughtfully, protect your emotional well-being, and seek professional assistance to ensure a smoother transition through this challenging period. Sharing news of a divorce is just the beginning. Often, after this initial step, you may feel a sense of relief because you can now openly discuss the situation with friends and family. Next, it's time to focus on the practical aspects of the process, such as organizing finances and legal procedures. At A.M. Financial, Amy Melander, CFP®, CDFA® works with individuals and couples who are facing challenging financial decisions during the divorce process to help them make informed decisions today regarding the future. If you're navigating through this challenging phase and need support, consider reaching out for a free financial consultation or for referrals to professionals, such as a divorce coach, to guide you through the next steps.

Coaching

Communicating Your Divorce: Sharing Your Decision with Others

Managing the 'Money Crazies' in Divorce: Navigating Emotional Turbulence

What is a Divorce Coach?